It was only today though (because I was having a rough day with the kids and the movie came to mind) that I thought, “I KNOW how she does it!”
You see, when I was pregnant with Lewis, my second boy, I went back to work for a few months and left my eldest in the hands of family while I was working. I thought it would be really hard but the truth is, it was fun sometimes! I felt like I was putting my brain to use! I could actually think and I was doing something productive and mentally challenging-in a good way of course!
I decided this year to be a stay at home mom-full time. I love my kids and I love spending time with them. But it does start to get to ANY stay at home mom. Our brains feel unchallenged and our days are pretty repetitive. There’s a HUGE difference between working moms and stay at home moms. When I work, I feel different. I look different. I have more energy. Maybe it’s because I am naturally an all or nothing person. So when I work I give it my all and I challenge how far I can go.
Being at home with the kids has it’s many blessings! It also has some downfalls. Yes, I am home all day and yes when the boys sleep I have that time to myself. And yes, I am on Facebook A LOT (to keep sane and social)! But I can feel my patience running on empty more and more everyday. And I am tired at 10pm! I don’t have as much enthusiasm about changing diapers or doing dishes as I do meeting deadlines and trying to calm an angry customer down!
Today I told my eldest about 15 times (not a lie) to “get off the counter” after catching him standing up on the counter trying to get into the cupboards. Where was I? I was changing a diaper or letting the dog out. Ryver is very quick and devious. I turn my head for two seconds (not lying!) and he’s already got a knife somehow (we hide them HIGH up) or he’s chasing the dog with a stick or he’s peeing under the table or he’s tearing apart my Valentine’s Bouquet (true story…but it’s still in one piece).
What I am trying to say is, (so you all know this is not a letter of complaint to the stork who dropped Ryver off to me 2 years ago) when you are a working mom you are able to the muscles in your brain. But when you are a non-working mom your brain starts to disintegrate. So as clever as that movie was, I know her secret and I know how she does it!!
I have to go now as my 2-year old just peed in a frying pan and I have to clean it up.